tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17484123.post6115248173203383984..comments2023-06-16T15:34:17.970+01:00Comments on What am I?: ProfessionalsDrSpousehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07259337858075146058noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17484123.post-42887369480412606752010-08-08T19:52:19.839+01:002010-08-08T19:52:19.839+01:00I'm on board with Barely Sane's guidance. ...I'm on board with Barely Sane's guidance. Some things are better left to say in person once who have a feel for the person. It's a developing relationship and you can't anticipate everything. You're a little like me, I just want to nail things down right away.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17484123.post-39564074165383908302010-08-03T20:44:20.367+01:002010-08-03T20:44:20.367+01:00not well enough informed to offer any advice, but ...not well enough informed to offer any advice, but the above seems sensible.Thaliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12125639207843989848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17484123.post-65864946268020288632010-07-30T08:13:39.930+01:002010-07-30T08:13:39.930+01:00I think what you wrote is fine the way you wrote i...I think what you wrote is fine the way you wrote it. If you wanted to change it at all, I could see maybe writing that you're open to many levels of openness. Does that make sense?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17484123.post-74018916945945579132010-07-28T23:12:58.992+01:002010-07-28T23:12:58.992+01:00I think it's good to mention openness in that ...I think it's good to mention openness in that you plan on communicating with your child's biological family, but it's better to avoid specifics because every situation is different and you don't know what the right fit will be with baby's bio family.<br /><br />And everyone says that it's easier to become MORE open over time when you've built a solid relationship than to go backward and close an adoption. You just don't know what will be right until you're in the situation.<br /><br />(And even then what you thought was right may not turn out to work the way you had thought.)Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12460332191706365559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17484123.post-28399282164023925532010-07-28T23:05:13.215+01:002010-07-28T23:05:13.215+01:00Here via OART #18.
We said something along the li...Here via OART #18.<br /><br />We said something along the lines of saying we were open to developing whatever level of relationship the birth family was comfortable with. <br /><br />It's such a balancing act. In reality though, you will likely start with a certain level of openness and as the relationships grow & evolve, it will hopefully expand into a much more relaxed & open placement.<br /><br />For us, we started slowly and we're just taking it at the speed of the individual first family members. Some are more open than others and that's ok. It's a learning experience for all of us.<br /><br />Good luck!!!Barely Sanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13264676811698784334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17484123.post-7582303678040519982010-07-28T22:28:55.026+01:002010-07-28T22:28:55.026+01:00You could say that you are happy to adapt the degr...You could say that you are happy to adapt the degree of openness to the first parent/ birth parent's wishes. If the birth family wishes, you are happy to come to the US once a year to keep up ties with the birth family.<br /><br />I think you're in a strong position because you're (half-?)American yourself. So it'll be easy for you to emphasise that part of the child's heritage, regardless of the amount of contact the birth parents feel able to have / would like to have.Percevalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10887809033252978757noreply@blogger.com