tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17484123.post7129280489496115..comments2023-06-16T15:34:17.970+01:00Comments on What am I?: NamesDrSpousehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07259337858075146058noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17484123.post-35833749765682817732008-12-21T12:37:00.000+00:002008-12-21T12:37:00.000+00:00I think for me I need to have a name to refer to a...I think for me I need to have a name to refer to a baby to whether lost or not. This time it was really important to me to have a name picked out before we went for our first scan, just in case things weren't ok.<BR/><BR/>I couldn't reuse the names, but I just personally need to name what I have lost as it helps me talk about that baby and I think for me personally it helped with the grieving.<BR/><BR/>I can understand why a lot of people feel the opposite though and don't want to choose a name until you know everything is ok. I tihnk if we hadn't definitely decided on that one name but it was one of several it would be ok. Irrationally I think if it was a friend it wouldn't be too bad either, but my brother can bog off and find a different name!Bernardeenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00457077164253960792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17484123.post-22520029372389902242008-12-18T22:21:00.000+00:002008-12-18T22:21:00.000+00:00I, like you, have had names picked out for decades...I, like you, have had names picked out for decades, but of course H doesn't go for many of them. I didn't get far enough in either of my first two pregnancies to give them a name, so haven't had to deal with this particular challenge. I do understand where you are coming from on this.Thaliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12125639207843989848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17484123.post-26261084943875389182008-12-18T15:11:00.000+00:002008-12-18T15:11:00.000+00:00We had names picked out when we had our first misc...We had names picked out when we had our first miscarriage. You get to 15 weeks, and most do. When I found out it was a girl we had lost, I gave her the name we had discussed. While I'm sure we could have re-used it, it just didn't feel right to me, no matter how badly I wanted to be able to call out that name to a live baby.<BR/><BR/>On the subsequent 3 pregnancies, we never discussed names. Hardly time to. And with ZGirl, I had something in mind if it was a girl, but never mentioned it until we hit 3rd trimester. <BR/><BR/>I still wish I had a baby girl named Vivienne. The name means "full of life". A bittersweet irony.Yo-yo Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06762060756925882704noreply@blogger.com